She had lots of misconceptions of the world and weight loss and happiness.

She assumed that if she lost weight she would be happy. She assumed that when she lost weight she would love her body. She assumed that if she lost weight the world would be easier. She assumed that because she was fat her husband was no longer attracted to her.

Lots of assumptions.

Looking back is an interesting thing. If you had told this girl that in 2 years she would have lost 90 lbs and be working towards a degree in nutrition, she probably would have called you a liar.

If you told her that she needs to learn to love her body now or else later she still wont, she would have asked you what is there to love?

I’ve learned so much on this journey. Nutrition. Strength training. Yoga. Self-love.

But mostly I learned that all those things I assumed about people not loving me because I was fat or thinking differently because I was fat. Didn’t matter.

So what if they did? If they did they aren’t worth it. But the point is. I needed to learn to love myself and my body as. it. is.

If a guy likes you, he’s not going to care how you look. Sure there are circumstances were weight might affect things, like job interviews or whatever. But the real point is that, if you hold yourself with confidence and are proud of yourself. No one can touch you.

And you can accomplish great things.

(size 18 jeans that I’m wearing in the above picture. they used to be skin tight.)